Men in Elders Quorum

In this solo episode, Kurt talks about how to transform the culture
in elders quorum and the entire ward by focusing on the heart of
the men. Links Research about men and suicide Is Elders Quorum
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Masculinity in the Church - feat. Kurt Francom Thoughtful Faith:
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is Too Nice | An Interview with Dr. Robert Glover How I Lead with
Priesthood Blessings | An Interview With Mike Novakovich One
Couple’s Journey Through Sexual Addiction | An Interview with Chris
& Autumn Bennett Former Bishop, Recovering Addict | An
Interview with Evan Hathaway Wild at Heart Waking the Dead: The
Secret to a Heart Fully Alive No More Mr. Nice Guy The Alter Ego
Effect The Heart of Man (streaming) Questions? Want to discuss this
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the Core Leader Library Highlights 2:40 Introduction to the
episode’s topic: men at church 7:15 If we could crack the code with
men to help them and strengthen them so that they can strengthen
their own families. Turning to porn and other things for coping.
9:30 The media and social platforms attack masculinity and call it
toxic. What does healthy masculinity look like? Does society know
what to do with men? Does the Church know what to do with men?
11:50 When we unknowingly send the wrong message at church. Men
hiding behind the perfect ironed suit and the huge smile.
Unfortunately someone in the elders quorum is the most at risk of
suicide. 14:00 How can we help men find brotherhood and connection
at church? Kurt makes suggestions on things we can do. We need to
offer more for men after they age out of Young Single Adult and
mission programs. 17:20 If you want to fix the youth then walk down
the hall and fix the elders quorum. Think of the impact that the
elders quorum can have on the youth and their own children. 19:00
The nice guy vs. masculine man. Kurt dives into toxic masculinity
and passive masculinity. 24:00 What does healthy masculinity look
like? 27:45 What does the Church attempt to offer men? These are
things that are offered on paper and with good intentions but
sometimes seem more like assignments. Saving ordinances Spiritual
development Community and brotherhood Service opportunities
Leadership opportunities 32:15 What do men need from the church?
What do they need from their quorum? While it's important to remind
them of their duty and responsibility you have to start with a
foundation. You have to start with heart. 34:00 There is no
laziness in elders quorum, just a lack of fulfillment. How to help
men turn back to their heart instead of duty. 39:50 According to
author John Eldridge, every man has 3 core desires: A battle to
fight An adventure to live A beauty to love 43:40 How to stimulate
brotherhood We need to provide mentorship Pray together and for
each other Invite people to share their story or share your own
Offer men adventure. Organize activities for men to get out 50:00
Kurt shares resources: books, events, podcast talks 54:00 How has
ministering to men made you a better follower of Jesus Christ? The
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