Blended Life EP. 50: Step Kid Issues

1.  Adult children/step children still living in the home or
relying heavily on parent. I don't currently have this issue but
I see a few freeloaders in our future. My daughter is 18 today
and is on track to move out and start her life. I have a fear
that my step son's will want to move out, they will go straight
to mom's but then keep asking dad to buy them everything putting
a strain on us being able to enjoy our empty nesting. We are
doing our best to teach them responsibility, but with BM's "couch
crashing" influence, ugh.
 
 2.  I have 2 step-daughters that are compete daddy’s
girls, which is sweet but they rely on him for EVERYTHING.
Cooking, cleaning up after, picking out their clothes, trimming
their nails, etc...all while criticizing everything. This
critical nature carries over into what I cook (mom does it a
better way) to the way I water my plants (yes, you read that
right). Did I mention they are 15 and 11? I could go on and on.
Trouble is, I want to like them, but I just don’t because I’m so
bitter how they have no discipline and treat my 2 boys like
trash. The most recent convo ended with my give a damn being
busted because I was told that I should be able to get over it
since I’m the adult and should set an example, and they are “just
kids” and don’t know better.... Trying to be judicial and I
really want our family to “blend” but it’s been 4 years and seems
to be getting worse. Help?? Btw, your podcast has got me through
some SERIOUS depressing and lonely moments so THANK YOU and keep
doing your thang cause you are a GODSEND! ️
 
 3.  Potential problems that come when a new baby is
introduced into a blended family. My ex husband’s wife is
pregnant and I have already noticed major changes. I’m also
fearful that my ex husband’s wife pushed so hard for a baby for a
control factor. 
 
 4.  Older kids choosing to not visit because of
different house rules  
 
 5.  BD inherited money . BM requested the check be
sent to my BF to handle because she was distraught . It’s in a
UTMA custodial account with fidelity and now she wants her name
on it and to have it moved into a regular savings. She is
unemployed and very high conflict. Should my BF put her on ? He
already has monthly statements sent to her. Her own family
doesn’t speak to her and recommended not to do it but won’t get
involved what would you do ?
 
 6.  10 year old not wanting to visit her mom because
she lives in an apartment and can’t go anywhere fun or see
friends.
 
 7.  I am a single mom, and my daughter has begun to
call my new partner daddy. Her biological father has never been
in the picture nor has tried. Am I wrong for allowing her to call
him daddy, my family seems to have a problem. should I have a
conversation with her telling her that it’s not okay? Any advice
is helpful.
 
 8.  Have you ever heard of a mini wife syndrome?
 
 Mini-Wife Syndrome is more common than most people realize
in relationships where single fathers have inadvertently allowed
their daughters to step into roles of companion, confidante,
and/or helpmate with their fathers.
 I’m living with my partner and his


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