077: Will this Be an I Can or I Can’t Moment?

Play Episode 77 Here Our SE sessions are made up of dozens, if not
hundreds, of elements of experience encountered in the moment. Part
of our task as SE Practitioners is to help clients thread their
attention through these elements in a way that maximizes the sense
of success while minimizing the sense of failure - ala the "I Can
Principle." Judging what is going to become an "I Can" moment and
what will lead to reinforcing "I Can't" requires time, experience
and attention. This critical weighing of what is going to work and
what isn't will be greatly aided by realizing that you're
constantly updating this assessment and that you''re better off
working in relationship to ideals of "what should be happening"
rather than continually frustrating a person's success by either
asking for or being unhelpful in minimizing when things will not be
successful. In short, we need to be able to perceive what our
client's "can do" and help them achieve that while doing our
best to minimize what they "can't do." Here's a reflection on some
elements that go into this assessment.