Episode 73: Compromise versus sacrifice

People often say that relationships require compromise. However,
in practice, this often amounts to the negotiated unhappiness of
both parties. This is because the heart of compromise is always
quid pro quo: I'll give up what I want now, and you'll give up
your right to what you want later. An alternative to compromise
is sacrifice, in which individuals choose to change in order to
secure future benefit to themselves. Unlike compromise, there is
no expectation that you will receive future consideration from
your partner. It is inherently selfish -- but it preserves the
freedom and dignity of the relationship.