#81 (ENG): "I am my own dream lover" (and I paid to be
dominated) with Pauline Marie Antoinette
@paulinemarieantoinette.
What happens when a woman with a corporate career, a political
science degree, and a perfectly respectable CV decides she’s done
living in her head?
She pays a professional dom. She writes erotic poetry. She builds
a cabaret where fantasies are spoken out loud.
In this episode of DEEP & DIRTY, I sit down
with Pauline Marie Antoinette — poet, performer, and founder of
Berlin’s Cabaret Cravache — to talk about pleasure, power, and
what it actually feels like to let go of control.
We talk about:
- leaving the corporate world behind
- discovering sexuality beyond performance and penetration
- why paying for pleasure can be deeply
empowering for women
- being dominated safely, consensually, and intentionally
- how poetry became a way to process desire, fear, and heartbreak
Pauline shares her experience of booking a professional
domination session — not as shock value, but as a lesson in
trust, communication, and surrender.What surprised her most
wasn’t the pain or the ropes, but how safe she felt being asked
what she wanted, what her boundaries were, and how she was
feeling throughout.
We also dive into:
- why women are still taught to feel guilty about receiving
pleasure
- how kink can be less about sex and more about presence
- why language matters — in bed, in poetry, and in everyday
intimacy
- and how Cabaret Cravache gives people a space to explore desire
without shame
This episode isn’t about extremes. It’s about honesty.
About what happens when you stop outsourcing your desires — or
silencing them — and start giving them a voice.
About Pauline
Pauline Marie Antoinette is a Berlin-based poet, performer, and
facilitator. Originally from the south of France, she
transitioned from a career in political science and international
event production into creating embodied, sex-positive, and
participatory art experiences.
She is the founder of Cabaret Cravache, a Berlin
cabaret blending erotic poetry, kink, ritual, and audience
fantasies — inviting people to explore desire, vulnerability, and
power in a curated and consensual space.
Pauline also facilitates workshops and retreats focused on
creative intimacy and kink, and collaborates with Sensuali, a
platform connecting people with sex-positive experiences and
professionals.
Find Pauline here:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulinemarieantoinette |
Cabaret Cravache: https://www.instagram.com/cabaretcravache |
Website: https://www.paulinemarieantoinette.com
Watch the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/rcKtdCD5ofk
Prefer the transcript? Find it here.
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