Ep201 : Tips and ideas for men who tie men, An interview with Bondage Otter (part1)

BondageOtter (he/they) is a queer leatherman and rope switch who
maintains a private S/M practice while organizing public education
and play programs for the community of people who want to tie
masc-of-center bodies. His education seeks to fuse Japanese
aesthetics with the erotics of gay leather culture. The podcast
hosts talked to him about how his rope experience in that culture
is different from the cis-het/pansexual community, and the unique
perspective that, along with hie experience living in Japan and
running events, gives him. He also shares some of the implications
for tops and bottoms when you primarily tie men. With huge energy,
a refreshingly direct and open perspective on rope and sexuality,
and strong self-reflection, Bondage Otter is a delight to listen
to. In the episode you can hear more about: • His rope journey • A
great tip to break into the kink community • Three things he loves
about rope • How shame and embarrassment figure in his play • What
he does to blend Japanese aesthetics and gay leather culture • How
he adapts Eastern aesthetic principles to be sustainable for larger
body types • How he ‘reads’ a new partner for pick-up play • Tips
for tying cut versus uncut penises • Suggestions for tying men from
the perspective of both bottom and top • How to broaden your
sources of inspiration for tying • Making the experience of
suspending male bodies better for all parties • And plenty more.
BondageOtter is the founder of Rope Burn SF, the USA’s first
ongoing masc-of-center, rope-specific play party + skill share,
with his remaining energy spent volunteering for numerous gay
organizations. Listen now on all podcast platforms, and look out
for Episode 202 to hear part 2 of the interview.