Ep206: Tying outside a marriage - An interview with monogamous couple Pearl and Bayowolf

Bayowolf and Wolfspearl have been married for 42 years and partners
in kink for the last 13. Shibari has become a central part of their
journey over the past six years, deepening both their connection
and their creativity. About a year and a half ago, with open
communication and a deep commitment to their marriage, they chose
to begin tying with other people—an experience that has expanded
their skills and enriched the bond they share. Both live with
autoimmune diseases and actively pursue health and strength through
clean eating and an intense fitness regimen, showing that
resilience, love, and rope can go hand in hand. In the episode Mya
and Fox explore with this delightful couple: • Why they decided to
tie with other tops and bottoms • How they explored and agreed what
rope with others would look like • Their limits and boundaries to
ensure they protect their relationship • What the most challenging
topics of discussion were in that conversation • The ways in which
they built trust in each other and relaxed some of their boundaries
over time • The benefits gained and learnings through tying outside
their marriage • Differences between tying with each other versus
other people • Being each others’ cheerleaders • Integrating into
the rope community as a rope top and rope bottom in their sixties •
‘Onboarding’ new rope bottoms safely • Their perspective on why
there are so few rope bottoms over 35 in the community • Tips for
older rope bottoms and tops integrating into a new rope community •
And plenty more