8 Ways You’re Unknowingly Sabotaging Your Comeback Season

Getting back in the saddle? I love that for you. But here’s the
truth: staying on track takes more than motivation. If you’ve
been craving a fresh start but don't know where to start, this
episode is for you. We’re breaking down 8 of the most common ways
people sabotage their own progress—from relying too much on
discipline to using self-hate as fuel. Whether you have a big
dream or just want to get unstuck, you deserve to enter your next
chapter with eyes wide open. Let’s talk about the philosophy and
psychology of making a comeback stick. 





EPISODE OUTLINE





00:00 Intro


02:40 Eight ways to sabotage a comeback


03:22 1. Believing you're behind


06:19 2. Being apologetic about what you want


07:18 You hold yourself back when you move in silence


08:41 You're being judgmental when you assume people are judging
you


10:28 3. Underestimating the subconscious mind


10:45 The neuroscience of manifestation


12:46 Self-deprecation is manifesting too


14:37 4. Focusing only on your how & not your why


14:47 Nietzsche's will to power


15:20 Chasing superficial whys


17:14 5. Underestimating the power of small changes


19:38 Results are a lagging measure of effort (James Clear)


21:30 6. Focusing on what you can't control


21:55 Amor Fati: loving your fate (Nietzsche)


23:22 PS: My book MAKE BELIEVE is out now


24:05 Stop feeling bad for yourself for not figuring it out
sooner


25:58 7. Waiting until you're ready to start


26:30 Hiding in the planning phase


26:51 The confidence-competence loop


27:50 8. Using self-hate as fuel


29:56 Lightning round recap


30:56 Give yourself some credit





EPISODE LINKS


Michigan State Study on accountability⁠


Mind Magic by Dr. James Doty


Study using fMRI showing impact of visualization on motor cortex


The Gay Science by Friedrich Nietzsche





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