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Habits of Highly Charismatic People

Habits of Highly Charismatic People

Soul Gum vor 1 Monat

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The manosphere wants you to think charisma is all about dominance
and control. But what if it’s actually about deep presence and
social courage?

I don’t want to be like the guy who uses scarce communication to
hide his lack of depth and fear of commitment. I want to be like
the people who make you feel cool just by talking to them, while
radiating charisma themselves.

If you’ve ever wondered why some people can have fun talking to
literally anyone, struggled to know what to say when someone asks
you a question, or wished you were more comfortable saying what
you actually think, this episode is for you.

In today’s episode, we unpack 5 habits of highly charismatic
people, from what they say when they’re getting to know someone
to how they navigate disagreements. Along the way, we’ll talk
about what we can learn from Socrates about swag, dive into the
science of answering any question well, and use Byung-Chul Han’s
concept of “the smooth” to investigate how we can stay raw and
real in a world that tries to sand our edges.

EPISODE OUTLINE: HABITS OF HIGHLY CHARISMATIC
PEOPLE

00:00 Intro

07:14 1. How to ask better questions

08:18 The science of how asking questions makes people like
you

10:18 The power of follow-up questions

13:41 2. How to answer any question without freezing

14:37 The scary thing no one tells you about writing a book

17:11 Why your mind goes blank when someone asks you a
question

18:03 The secret to answering questions with ease

20:21 The link between storytelling and charisma

22:40 3. Stop performing agreement in conversations

23:18 What is backchanneling?

23:59 Upspeak, confidence, gender, and the way we talk

26:05 Should we actually backchannel less?

28:58 4. How charismatic people handle disagreement

30:27 What Socrates can teach us about intellectual humility

32:14 5. Stop treating human connection like a formula

33:36 Byung-Chul Han and “the smooth”

36:13 Btw you’re not a chad for wanting to be loved

39:04 Lightning round recap

40:44 Poem: Small Kindnesses by Danusha Laméris

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