How to Care Less What People Think

The bad news is you’re always going to care what people think.
The good news is  it doesn’t have to control your life. In
this episode, I walk through 9 ways to rethink your relationship
with external validation. If you want to be done letting other
people’s opinions steer your every move, this one’s for you.





EPISODE OUTLINE





00:00 Intro


05:28 1. Caring what people think is natural


07:14 2. You can’t control how you feel, but you can control what
you do 


16:07 3. You should care what some people think 


18:16 4. Not caring what people think ≠ not caring about people


19:45 5. Chasing approval always backfires eventually


26:21 6. You don’t know what people think


30:29 7. Other people are not thinking about you as much as it
feels like they are


35:32 8. You care more about other people’s opinions when you
don’t have your own


37:28 9. It’s okay to want to be with people who make you feel
good


39:27 Lightning round recap


42:29 Challenge





EPISODE LINKS





• The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz 


• Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl 


• The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga


• The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir


• The Art of Living by Epictetus 


• Spotlight Effect Study 


• Social Rejection Triggers Physical Pain Brain Centers 


• Surgeon General's Report on the Health Impact of
Loneliness 





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