Ep52: Rope Tops Need Love Too - A listener question with Cats-Pajamas, Malaysia

Cats-Pajamas, who is primarily a rope bottom, runs a munch in
Malaysia with her partner, KitKatKen, and came to us with a
potentially controversial topic. She’s been thinking about the
needs of rope tops and whether in the current climate where there
is a great deal of focus on rope bottoms, the needs of rope tops
are becoming invisible, and whether we’re truly treating our rope
tops as humans rather than rope dispensers. Fox and Mya talk with
her about * The consequences of bottoms being passive and the
expectation being more focused on tops * How we can use negotiation
better to cover the needs of both parties * Whether we should focus
more on what the bottom can do for the top, as well as the other
way round * Making sure the bottom isn’t passive, but takes
responsibility engages with the rope and the top * The load on tops
and how bottoms can share this * The challenge of giving feedback
versus ‘topping from the bottom’ * Fox’s experience of this as a
rope top and the question only one new rope bottom has asked him