Ep62: How rope tops might play with new bottoms who don’t know what they want

A listener’s question from Co, who asks: What’s a good way to
respond to a bottom asking them to tie them - when the bottom has
no idea what they want to do. Fox and Mya discuss the topic,
talking both in the abstract and concrete, looking at how rope tops
can deal with this very common situation. They explore: * Why
different types of rope bottoms (experienced and new) might respond
with ‘I don’t know’ or ‘I don’t mind’ when a rigger asks them what
they want in the scene * Why this kind of question is important,
and why it shouldn’t be treated lightly * The type of negotiation
style they’d recommend in this situation * Balancing the risks of
this situation * Why every rope top isn’t necessarily a good match
for every rope bottom * Reminding both parties of some of their
‘responsibilities’ in rope, as well as the importance and detail of
communication and consent (we continue to recommend the FRIES
consent model) * What you might need to do after the scene * How
rope bottoms can avoid the ‘I don’t know’ response in the future!