Ep108: Self-suspension Play and Performance - An interview with ShayBlondie

“I can’t emphasise enough how good of a learning tool I think
self-suspension is. Of course you learn tying techniques, but also
skills relating to the experience of being in rope. As a person in
rope, self-suspension is an invaluable tool: to lab your
preferences, to learn to differentiate between warning signs of
damage and sensations that are intense, but not harmful.” Shay
Tiziano CW: Mentions self-harm, domestic abuse. Shay is the author
of Tying and Flying: Bondage for Self-suspension, BDSM and
sexuality educator, medical professional and host and facilitator
of many kink events. One of our most-asked for interviews, Mya and
Fox are also big fans of her online performances and classes, and
were thrilled when Shay agreed to come on the podcast. Though the
podcast focuses on self-suspension, as Mya and Fox will attest,
there’s plenty of useful ideas for ropes bottoms and tops too In
the episode, discover: - How Shay got into self-suspending
initially - The role of intention in self-suspending and how it
makes a difference to your practice - Flow, self-suspension and
different feeling states it can create - How Shay works self-tying
into partnered play - The skills self-suspenders might need before
going in the air - How to mitigate the risks of self-suspension,
especially some that are less well-known - What can rope tops and
bottoms learn from self-suspending? - Why she thinks a spotter is
critical for self-suspenders, and great practical tips to help
spotters - Circus rope - what is it, and how the BDSM scene needs
to embrace it more