#740: Greg McKeown and Diana Chapman

This episode is a two-for-one, and that’s because the podcast
recently hit its 10-year anniversary and passed one billion
downloads. To celebrate, I’ve curated some of the best of the
best—some of my favorites—from more than 700 episodes over the
last decade. I could not be more excited. The episode features
segments from episode #355 "Greg McKeown — How to Master
Essentialism" and episode #536 "Diana Chapman — How to Get
Unstuck, Do “The Work,” Take Radical Responsibility, and Reduce
Drama in Your Life."


Please enjoy!


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Timestamps:


[00:00] Start


[05:26] Notes about this supercombo format.


[06:28] Enter Greg McKeown.


[06:49] What is non-essential?


[07:46] Overcoming the planning fallacy.


[13:30] The problem with taking ownership of someone else’s
problems.


[15:44] How to avoid committing to the unsustainable.


[21:26] Three rules.


[25:28] The personal quarterly offsite.


[33:05] Enter Diana Chapman.


[33:22] A transformative gift.


[36:56] The Drama Triangle.


[43:36] The whole-body yes (or no) and how it can serve us.


[46:06] Diana guides an experience to help pay better attention
to our whole-body yes (or no).


[54:36] Observations made during the exercise and how Diana
recommends using this inventory.


[1:01:39] Fostering playfulness for those who mute their desire
to celebrate.


[1:08:28] Diana’s “black belt in practicing candor.”


[1:09:37] Diana’s thoughts on loving pressure and how to bring it
into a relationship.


[1:13:24] Applying loving pressure to people you don’t know well.


[1:15:08] Diana’s guidance on introspection leading to
perspective shifts; using Byron Katie’s “turnarounds.”


[1:17:48] Diana guides me through a turnaround.


[1:23:58] A turnaround’s purpose is to identify and embrace
alternatives, not invalidate the inspected belief.


[1:29:06] The importance of introducing the somatic into the
process; suggestions for difficulty with this step.


[1:31:47] The role of the witness in this process.


[1:33:54] Walking the line.


[1:35:40] Welcoming the opportunity to learn from the experience,
even if it’s not preferred.


[1:37:35] Alternative tools for dysregulation in the moment.


[1:39:31] Risks Diana and her husband Matt took to keep their
relationship vital; who initiated the first difficult
conversation.


[1:45:11] How Diana figured out who she needed to be during this
time.


[1:47:11] Navigating decision points together as a couple.


[1:49:42] Examples of commitments from The 15 Commitments of
Conscious Leadership.


[1:53:22] The Mind Jogger app and how Diana uses it with the
commitments.


[1:55:55] Assessing self-awareness in hiring interviews applied
to non-job situations.


[1:57:53] Books most gifted.


[1:59:35] Parting thoughts.


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