#784: Dr. Becky Kennedy — Parenting Strategies for Raising Resilient Kids, Plus Word-for-Word Scripts for Repairing Relationships, Setting Boundaries, and More

Dr. Becky Kennedy is the founder and CEO of Good
Inside, a parenting movement that overturns a lot of
conventional, modern parenting practices to empower parents to
become sturdy, confident leaders and raise sturdy, confident
kids. She is the author of the bestselling book Good
Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, a
chart-topping podcast, a TED talk with nearly 4 million views on
the power of repair, and an upcoming children’s book, That’s My
Truck! A Good Inside Story About Hitting.


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Timestamps:


[00:00] Who is Dr. Becky Kennedy? 


[06:49] The power of repair.


[09:44] “It’s never your fault when I yell at you.”


[13:49] What does it mean to be a “good” parent?


[15:26] Activating curiosity over judgment.


[18:27] Alternatives to saying “Good job” as a confidence
builder.


[23:16] Making kids happy vs. building capability.


[26:44] A pilot metaphor for sturdy leadership.


[31:56] Role confusion.


[34:30] Defining boundaries.


[38:44] How parenting becomes a two-way mirror for growth.


[43:46] The MGI (Most Generous Interpretation) approach.


[46:29] Biggest challenges in parenting.


[50:29] Recommended reading for someone with kids in their life.


[55:49] Advisable prerequisites for singles who aim to build a
family.


[59:55] Setting boundaries with grandparents and dealing with
different parenting styles.


[01:05:18] Handling frustration when a child is pushing your
buttons.


[01:13:35] Lessons learned from working with eating disorders.


[01:17:03] Managing troublemaker behavior.


[01:21:14] Bad influence intervention.


[01:26:28] Cultivating resilience in “deeply feeling” kids
(DFKs).


[01:32:35] The trials and errors that birthed Good Inside.


[01:36:30] “Our words are not our wishes. Our words are our
fears.”


[01:43:44] Billboard messages and mantras.


[01:51:37] Fan-favorite scripts on saying no, boundaries, and
repair.


[01:54:52] The tennis court metaphor for boundaries.


[01:59:22] Resources and parting thoughts.


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