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The Joy of Reconciliation
Jesus said to his disciples: “If your brother sins against you, go
and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to
you, you have won over your brother.” Matthew 18:15
When someone sins against us, especially in a grievous way, anger
and condemnation can quickly arise as strong temptations. Our
natural sense of justice often takes over, and we may find
ourselves rationalizing a response rooted in judgment rather than
compassion. In today’s Gospel, however, Jesus offers the much
better path—to seek reconciliation, not division. The ultimate goal
is to win the sinner back to God and restore the bond of
communion.
Sin touches every human relationship, with the sole exception of
the one shared between Jesus and His Blessed Mother. Their mutual
and perfect charity rendered sin and division entirely absent from
their union. What a sublime and singular gift they shared!
But we are not perfect. Even the most loving and holy relationships
are affected by human weakness, and sin inevitably creeps in. We
sin against others, and others sin against us. Sometimes the sin is
deliberate and deeply wounding. Other times, it stems from weakness
or the absence of fully formed virtue. Regardless of its source,
every sin inflicts harm and weakens the communion we are called to
share and deeply desire.
In today’s Gospel, while Jesus appears to be addressing serious sin
that severs a person from sanctifying grace—mortal sin—the same
principles apply to all offenses, even venial sins and spiritual
imperfections. The Christian response to sin must always be
grounded in mercy. Whether we are correcting or being corrected,
the goal must always be to heal, to restore, and to deepen our
unity in Christ.
To begin applying these spiritual principles, call to mind those
toward whom you may harbor resentment. Start with your family,
since familial bonds—due to their natural closeness—are especially
vulnerable to sin. Resentment born of sin is often present in close
relationships. While some wounds may have caused deep fractures,
even the most loving bonds can suffer subtle injuries. Prayerfully
examine these relationships in your life.
If the wounds are deep and hostilities strong, the path forward is
usually clear: Seek to win over your brother, sister, parent, or
spouse. And if you are the one who has caused the wound, then
humbly acknowledge your sin without excuses. This is always the
better path. Always.
To aid this process, it is helpful to recognize a hidden dynamic:
Holding onto resentment or anger can bring a certain emotional
satisfaction. Though it may seem surprising, this is often the
case. Anger energizes the emotions and creates a charged feeling
that, while disordered, can feel gratifying—like a drug that fuels
addiction.
The first step is to recognize this disordered emotional pattern
for what it is. The next step is to realize that a healed and
reconciled relationship offers a deeper and more lasting
fulfillment that is far superior to the fleeting satisfaction of
resentment or hostility. Winning over another—or being won over by
one we have wronged—is profoundly rewarding. It transcends emotion
and enters the realm of grace, producing true peace and spiritual
joy.
Reflect today on the first step of reconciliation outlined by Jesus
in the Gospel: “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him
his fault between you and him alone.” Take sin seriously.
Acknowledge its presence in your relationships, especially the
close ones. See yourself both as one who is sinned against and as
one who sins. Identify the offenses that diminish love. Confront
those sins with courage and humility. Reject the false comfort of
resentment, and seek instead the true consolation that comes from
unity and charity. This is the path that leads to a share in the
holy love between Jesus and His Blessed Mother—a love they desire
us to know and live.
Lord of perfect mercy, Your Sacred Heart burns with a deep
desire to win us back to Yourself—fully reconciled and united in
love. I repent of my sins before You, and I pray that Your love,
living within me, may become a wellspring of mercy for others. I
forgive all who have sinned against me, and I repent of the sins I
have inflicted upon others. Restore every relationship in my life,
Lord, and endow them with the same pure and holy love You shared
with Your Blessed Mother. Jesus, I trust in You.
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