#620: Dr. Gabor Maté — The Myth of Normal, Metabolizing Anger, Processing Trauma, and Finding the Still Voice Within

Dr. Gabor Maté — The Myth of Normal, Metabolizing Anger,
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Dr. Gabor Maté (@DrGaborMate) is a renowned
speaker and bestselling author, highly sought after for his
expertise on a range of topics that includes addiction, stress,
and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several
bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of
Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body
Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection, and
Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You
Can Do About It. He has also coauthored Hold On to Your Kids: Why
Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. His works have been
published internationally in nearly thirty languages.


His new book is The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and
Healing in a Toxic Culture.


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[05:30] How COVID affected Gabor.


[06:33] Exploring plant medicine with Indigenous First Nations.


[13:29] How Gabor got fired from his own ayahuasca retreat.


[16:35] Can Indigenous medicine ever be understood through a
Western lens?


[21:37] How does Gabor clear himself of the trauma he takes from
others?


[22:48] Was writing The Myth of Normal more labor intensive than
Gabor’s other works?


[25:40] A personal story about how past trauma can show up in
everyday life.


[29:01] Coping with rage and anger.


[40:01] Attachment versus authenticity.


[45:12] Where does depression originate?


[48:23] Raising a child to learn self-regulation.


[52:24] What Gabor hopes The Myth of Normal readers don’t miss.


[57:20] Finding the right balance of self-care when caring for a
family.


[1:01:18] The harm of focusing on correcting a child’s behavior
rather than their underlying emotional dynamics.


[1:05:47] Rehabilitation versus punishment of incarcerated,
traumatized adults.


[1:14:55] If he couldn’t write, what would be the focus of
Gabor’s clinical practice?


[1:17:50] Finding and listening to one’s inner voice or calling.


[1:25:58] Are you bargaining with your authenticity?


[1:30:41] Parting thoughts.


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