004 Dr. Shefali Tsabary - Awake-ish

00:56 – Introducing today’s guest, Dr. Shefali Tsabary


05:35 – Conscious parenting, defined


08:18 – Goals of conscious parenting


11:22 – Dr. Stephanie opens up about having expectations of her
son


13:29 – Framing expectations for our children


16:11 – Differentiating between child-centric and parent-centric
parenting


18:22 – Parenting myths discussed in Dr. Shefali’s book, The
Awakened Parent


19:58 – Why success has become the primary barometer for
childrearing


23:14 – The danger of potential


25:26 – The myth of ‘good’ children and ‘bad’ children


28:50 – Learnings Dr. Stephanie applied from Dr. Shefali’s book


30:28 – Dr. Shefali provides practical tools parents can utilize
daily


31:47 – The myth that good parents are naturals


35:11 – Breaking free of parental guilt


36:40 – The myth that a good parent is a loving one


39:36 – Dr. Stephanie recalls a vulnerable moment from her
childhood


42:18 – The myth that parenting is about raising a happy child


46:10 – The myth that parents need to be in control


48:46 – Tools parents can use to become more conscious


52:47 – How to navigate two differing parental philosophies


54:14 – Dr. Shefali gives advice to parents struggling with
raising children with special needs


55:54 – The importance of accepting ourselves as imperfect beings


58:16 – Dr. Shefali promotes her annual event, Evolve


59:50 – Where listeners can follow Dr. Stephanie and subscribe to
her newsletter


TWEETABLE QUOTES


“The conscious parenting understands that the traditional way
they’ve been parenting until now is full of holes and mythologies
that need to be debunked.” (05:45)


“In many ways our children are more evolved because they allow
themselves to be unhampered by culture. They’re very open about
their feelings. They’re not yet jaded and critical like we can
be.” (11:03)


“I think keep it to day-to-day expectations and the rest will
kind of take care of itself. If they’re [your children] meant to
be a scientist, they’re going to be a scientist. If they’re meant
to be an artist, they’re going to be an artist. Don’t dictate
their future.” (15:52)


“Success has become the goal of childhood. Not play, not
exploration, not nothingness, not boredom, not creativity, but
success.” (19:58)


“Our children are not here to live our lives. And they’re not
here to fulfill our destinies. They’re here to become their own
beings.” (22:46)


“There’s so much to learn. And, really, parenting should just be
learning. We don’t know these children that come to us.” (32:16)


“The journey is not outward, it’s inward. You have to go inward
in order to make this thing call parenting work.” (34:59)


“Love is the most active thing you can feel. And it really
involves no judgement, no approval, no conditions, no
transactions. It’s really love for the other person’s essence no
matter how they make you feel.” (37:06)


“That’s the beautiful part of life. If life was all happy, there
would be no nuance, there would be no adventure, there would be
no complexity, and there would be no growth.” (43:27)


“Meditation has been the single most profound tool in my life, so
much so that I am more connected inward than outward.” (51:57)


“We can’t be everything to all people and all things and all
images of ourselves as women.” (54:44)


“Mothering just takes the life out of us, doesn’t it? And I think
that we are ashamed to talk about just how draining it is because
we have this mantle of perfection over our heads.” (55:31)


LINKS MENTIONED


Better! Website


Private Facebook Community for Better!


Dr. Stephanie’s Website


Dr. Stephanie’s Twitter – @dr_stephanie


Dr. Stephanie’s Instagram – @dr.stephanie.estima


Dr. Shefali’s Instagram –
@drshefalimexico


Dr. Shefali’s Twitter –
@DrShefali


Dr. Shefali’s Facebook


Dr. Shefali’s Website


Link to Dr. Shefali’s Evolve Event


BOOKS MENTIONED


Dr. Shefali’s Book – The Awakened Family: How to
Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious Children


The Conscious Parent


ENJOYING THE SHOW, READY FOR MORE?


Please Subscribe to Better! With Dr. Stephanie


Join our Private Facebook Community for Better!


Rate and Review: Show your support and help
spread the word by writing a review, along with a 5-star rating
on Apple Podcasts: https://bettershow.co/apple


️️️


Podcast production and marketing provided by
FullCast


****************************
P.S. When you're ready, here are two ways Dr. Stephanie can help
you:


Subscribe: The Mini
Pause — My weekly newsletter packed with the most
actionable, evidence-based tools for women 40+ to thrive in
midlife.


Build Muscle: LIFT — My
progressive strength training program designed for women in
midlife. Form-focused, joint-friendly, and built for real
results.


Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for
information about our collection and use of personal data for
advertising.