Episode 020 – 4 Denials That Can Ruin Your Life

Summary: Are you ever hard on yourself? Do you have a tendency to
blame yourself for things that are—quite literally—beyond your
control? Well, you’re not alone. Lots of people are guilty of
being overly critical of themselves. But for you—not anymore. In
this episode, Joseph highlights the four most common denials and
self-criticisms that, if left unchecked, can ruin your life.
Listen to learn how you can keep these four psychological toxins
from poisoning the well of your mind. Time Stamped Show Notes:
00:22 – Today’s episode is about the 4 denials that can ruin your
life 00:37 – Humans are the only creatures that can engage in
harsh introspection o 01:17 – "You can fool all the people some
of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot
fool all the people all the time." – Abraham Lincoln o 01:27 –
“You can’t fool yourself all the time” – Joseph Tropper 02:07 –
The bigger you are as a person, the bigger your blind spot
02:33 – As a training therapist, Joseph found it helpful to
record (with patient consent) sessions so he could go over the
sessions repeatedly and assess himself 03:29 – 4 Denials We
Live with: o 03:39 – Denial of our abilities 04:01 – People are
good at things because they practice 05:03 – We deny our own
abilities 05:27 – Ask yourself what your abilities really are o
05:59 – The look-at-yourself-first approach 06:30 – Look at
yourself first before blaming anyone else o 06:43 – Denial of the
self – we are not aware of our own needs 07:13 – “There’s this
general understanding that the more of a martyr you are, the more
you give of yourself and don’t take, the better the parent you
are” 07:22 – You need to take care of yourself and teach your
kids to do the same o 07:40 – Denial of the spirit 08:08 – If
you’re part of a religious group, embrace the spiritual
connection 09:09 – Ask yourself questions and look at yourself
09:28 – Please leave us a comment on Mind Your Mind and a
review on iTunes


3 Key Points:
You can fool yourself all the time – but deep down you usually
really know what the truth is. You weren’t made to be martyr—learn
to take care of yourself. More often than not, it’s not that you
don’t have the ability, it’s that you haven’t practiced enough.